Power in the Spoken Word

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Words are units of spoken or written representations of a language that convey meaning. Words are used to express ourselves and our emotions. Words are powerful and we hear expressions like, “I give you my word”; “Keep your word.” In both expressions, word is regarded as  a promise or an honour to be taken seriously.

images copy.jpegMost people do not know the power of the spoken word. Words are vibrations spoken out as a result of our thoughts.  Words therefore are spoken thoughts. Thoughts are powerful , but spoken words are more powerful since words are thoughts expressed.  Whatever we express manifests more quickly in the universe through the Law of Attraction and Law of Vibration

“Whatever man voices, he begins to attract” (Florence Scovel Shinn)

We could use a lot of scripture to portray the significance of ‘Word’.  We read that God created the universe by spoken word and it came to be. We also read that “the Word was made Man and dwelt among us”. Word manifests!  

Spoken words when uttered with emphasis, and strong emotions, manifest physical results.

Jesus said to them .“… If you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible to you”. (Matt 17:20).

Jane Elliot’s “Blue-eye/Brown-eye Exercise”

After Martin Luther King Jr. was assassinated in 1968, Primary school teacher, Jane Elliot wanted to teach her 3rd grade class about racism. Because most of her 8-year-old pupils had been born and were being raised in a small all-white town in Iowa and had seen black people only on television, she felt that her all-white class cannot fully comprehend racism’s meaning. Rather than a lengthy discussion about it, she used what she called the “Blue-eye/Brown-eye Exercise”. On the day of the exercise, she told the blue-eyed children that they were the superior group and made them sit in front of the class and gave them extra privileges. She told the brown-eyed pupils that they were inferior and less intelligent group, and sent them to sit at the back rows. She used negative words to describe the brown eyes pupils and positive encouraging words for the  blue-eyed children. images.jpegWithin 15 minutes into the exercise, there was a direct noticeable change in the behavior and personality of the two groups – the blue-eyed pupils behaving more intelligent and more assertive, while the brown-eyed pupils became dull and confused, exhibiting lack of self esteem. The following day, Elliott reversed the exercise, telling the brown-eyed children that they were superior. A reversed change in behavior and personality occurred. Though this experiment became very controversial, the fact still remained that there is power in words! Other schools and establishments have used this same exercise and gotten similar outcomes. Words manifest! The above experiment teaches that we must be careful in what we say to our children. You may like to read more about Jane Elliot’s Blue-eye/Brown-eye Exercise in the internet.

Dr Masaro Emoto’s ‘Words and Water’ Experiment.

Some of you may have read about the water experiments by the Japanese scientist, Dr Masaro Emoto. Dr Emoto showed that water reacts to words. He showed that water differentiates between harmonious vibrations and non harmonious vibrations – vibrations of sounds, music and words. He proved this by freezing distilled water from different sources and water exposed to different vibrations. He then used special photographic techniques to document the crystals  …..

“The result was that we always observed beautiful crystals after giving good words, playing good music, and showing, playing, or offering pure prayer to water.”(Dr. Masaro Emoto).

Below are a few of the results from Dr Emoto’s experiments of the frozen water crystals with words said to it, or music played to it. 

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Amazing Grace song

 

 

 

 

 

Dr. Emoto’s ‘Rice -Water’ Experiments

Dr. Emoto went on to conduct other experiments using rice and water called, ‘Dr Emoto’s Rice/Water experiment’. He placed portions of cooked rice in 3 little glass containers. To one he said “Thank you” and labeled it. To the 2nd he said, “You’re an Idiot” and labeled it accordingly. He ignored the 3rd container. Everyday for one month, he said ‘Thank you’ to the 1st container and ‘You’re an Idiot’ to the 2nd. He ignored the 3rd. At the end of the month, the contents of the glass container with the positive words had barely changed giving out a pleasant aroma, while the 2nd with the negative words had gone very black with a foul smell. The rice in the ignored container began to rot. Many people have since performed this experiment with astounding results. You can google Dr Emoto’s rice-water experiments to read, or see more on the subject. You can also perform the experiment yourself.

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Recreating Dr. Emoto’s rice-water experiment

3 years ago, inspired by this experiment, my son, Ugo, and his two daughters, Melissa and Michelle, carried out the ‘rice-water’ experiments themselves and the result was astonishing! Take a look and listen to the children describe their experiment after 30 days.

 

images.pngThere is certainly power in the spoken words. We live in a miraculous world and we are living miracles. When you consider that words have effect on water and that the human body contains  50%-70% water, we may begin to imagine what everything we say to ourselves and to others are doing to our bodies – our physical and psychological wellbeing and our outlook in life. We should pay attention to what we say to ourselves and others. Words of affirmation are very important. Say positive things about yourself and to yourself. Say positive encouraging thing to your children. Say good things to, and about others and mean these things when you say them. “Your Words are your Magic Wands”

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‘Be anxious for nothing’

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As the year 2016 gradually comes to an end, the cities light up with decorations. Shopping malls bustle with people buying presents and gifts for loved ones. FullSizeRender.jpgAt this period, despite all natural and man-made turbulences and  political uncertainties, allow yourself to remember and believe that ‘all things work together for good’. As William Shakespeare put it, ‘Come what come may, time and the hour run through the roughest day!’ Things always have a way of working out – perhaps not the way we envisioned them, but they do work out all the same! You should thank the past for all the lessons it has taught you and apply these positively to the future.

Several months ago, I had a panic attack as I learnt of something that was happening with some members of my family. I imagined all the worst outcomes. I developed pain in my chest. My head was pounding. I could hear the thudding of my heart beats. I could hardly breathe. The more I thought it over, the more I feared for the worst. Sleep was out of the question. I would lie and ruminate over and over all that could go wrong. By the end of 3 days, I was miserable with anxiety fatigue. My blood pressure had gone up. Then, I realized I had to begin to practise what I preached. Believe it or not, all things did work out fine!

Worry and Anxiety 

Everyone worries sometimes but some people worry all the time. Worry is an adaptive function developed in humans for dealing with, and resolving problems. It allows us to think or imagine things over and over in our minds in order to come to a solution. images.pngWorrying is a function of the imagination. Without imagination, there would be no worry! If worry does not solve a problem or has the potential of solving a problem, then, learn to let go of it.Worrying can become habitual and chronic and in that case may negatively affect your mood and your health. images-2.jpegNote that most things you worry about never happen! Worry involves the thinking part of the brain – the Cortex.

Anxiety on the other hand, is a form of excessive worry with a very uncomfortable feeling of fear, apprehension, or dread. It is a feeling in your gut that something bad is going to happen. The root cause of anxiety is fear. The mind examines the issue at hand and negatively projects the future with the worse-case scenarios and gets terrified by these projections as if they must happen! These then trigger anxious feelings that flood the body with stress hormones resulting in any of the following physical symptoms –  rapid heart beat, shortness of breathe, tightening of, and pain in the chest, tommy ache, headaches, migraines, sweating and diarrhea…  Anxiety can be chronic and therefore becomes  a psychological disorder – Anxiety Disorder, requiring professional help. Anxiety arises from the mid-brain, the limbic area responsible for emotions in humans. Lots of issues can create anxiety – your job, money, family and health issues.

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; And the Peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and mind …”  (Philippians 4:6-7)

Transforming Anxiety 

Anxiety is your body reflecting the thoughts that you are thinking- usually thoughts of worse case scenarios! To transform anxiety or any negative emotion, you must learn to admit what you are feeling and how your body is reacting to it. Taking medications to calm anxiety is not a good idea since this can become addictive. Your body could rely on  the medications instead of your brain producing the chemicals that ease out the problem.

  • Anxiety is fired by emotions and the effective way to transform anxiety is to take the emotions to a neutral phase by finding something to feel positive about so you can gain new perspectives about the issue at hand. Positive emotions neutralize the hold that negative emotions have on the brain. Think of things that make or made you happy, things that make or made you laugh or smile. Think of some issues you worried about in the past that eventually worked out right. 
  • Avoid people who encourage negative emotions and project fearful scenarios. When unavoidably in the company of such people, change the subject or excuse yourself.
  • Breathe slowly and deeply to help neutralize emotional charges and reduce stress hormones.
  • Exercise – Simply taking long walks, cycling, swimming or dancing for 20 – 30 minutes can produce endorphins, the ‘feel good’ hormones that reduce stress and anxiety.
  • Listen to music that you love.
  • Go to somewhere that makes you feel calm and secure – a quiet park, a church, mosque or temple to breathe or meditate. 
  • Eat well to stabilize your blood sugar and drink lots of water.
  • Most importantly, practise gratitude. Be thankful for all you’ve been blessed with. Thinking about the good things in your life helps neutralize negative emotions. FullSizeRender-2.jpg

As you watch and experience the decorations and festivities associated with the ‘passing‘ of the year 2016, no matter what is happening in your life,  whisper softly to yourself, “This too shall pass!”

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Merry Christmas and Happy, ‘Anxiety-free’ New Year in advance!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Effect of the ‘Awe!” Experience

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Awe is an emotion comparable to wonder, with a combination of amazement, surprise and even fear. Although the meaning of the word Awe has changed over time, the expression of ‘Awe’ has been defined as an overwhelming feeling of reverence, admiration, and fear, produced by that which is extremely amazing, grand, or extremely powerful. It is directed at objects considered to be more powerful than the subject, such as, a great water fall, the Great Pyramid of Gaza, the Grand Canyon, the paintings of the Sistine Chapel in the Vatican, an inspiring Sunset, or the vastness of the cosmos.

Awe serves to draw attention away from the self and toward the environment. Focusing and admiring the beauty and intricacy of nature, the flowers, the oceans, sunset, can bring one to the state of Awe. 

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Ski site ( by Michelle Ugbor)

Awe therefore arises out of the experience through our senses, mainly through our sight, and at times through sound, touch and smell.

In most African countries where the wonders of nature abound, there is often indifference to these wonders, or at best, fear of them. The first time I really took note at the beauty of nature, was during my mission to Namibia in 1991, just after her independence. On a consultancy assignment with 6 male expatriates from Iceland, Norway, Sweden, Denmark, and the Netherlands, I couldn’t help but ‘look’ and ‘see’. They called attention to the topography, the wildlife, and all nature! We went on a safari up the mountains and I beheld a planet that looked like Mars.

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Have we landed on Mars? I asked myself. The topography of the top of the mountains was like the image we see of Mars.The tour guide handed us hammers to break the rock. What I saw was breathtaking … ROSE QUARTZ, Amethyst..! These rugged, dirty, rocky peaks were mountains of semi-precious stones!

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Breaking the rocks of Rose Quartz

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Sitting by the beach in Swakopmund, I could not but marvel at how the beautiful, undulating, golden brown sand domes of the Namib desert come down and end their journey at the beach of the Atlantic Ocean.

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Skiing on the sand domes

For the first time, I witness people skiing on sand! The sand domes of the Namib desert were skiing grounds! (But of course, the skiers were expatriates and tourists). I admired for the first time, the Namib Flamingos and white Pelicans as they grazed by the seashore!

Ever since, I’ve always found something of nature that marvels me, rainbows, flowers, waterfalls, mountains, .. all have something that portrays the mind of the Creator.

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Pamukkale hot spring terraces, Turkey

The Pamukkale natural hot spring terraces in Southwestern Turkey which I visited with my husband many years ago still fills me with awe.

Everyone has had some ‘awe’ experience . When we witness something awesome, we make exclamations like “Oh my God!” “Wow!” As we regard nature’s wonders with awe, the sensation, the thought and the exclamations we may make, lead to the release of ‘feel good hormones’ in our body. These in turn enhance our well-being by improving our immunity, lowering blood pressure and minimizing depressive emotions. It is interesting to learn how nature compensates us as we admire nature! The “Awe” experience raises your frequency of vibration, and, going by the law of attraction, the more we appreciate, the more things to appreciate will be attracted to us. The universe brings forth pleasurable things into our lives through the Law of Attraction.

Spring season with the blooming of flowers is a period of awesome beauty. Watching the beauty of nature is far much better than watching some unpleasant media broadcasts and publications. When more people learn to admire nature and the awesomeness of its beauty, perhaps, we begin to experience a better world!

I love to watch clips from Louie Schwartzberg, a cinematographer, who captures stunning life images that reveal the fascinating beauty and connectivity of nature. Here is one of his videos at TED Talks…

 

 

Understanding Our Purpose

So many people wonder and worry about their life purpose. “I don’t know what my life is all about” you will hear most people say. Thousands of books are available on how to discover your purpose in life. Many believe that their life purpose is a hidden treasure, which they must search for, and discover.

Life Purpose, or the reason for your existence, is not about finding a well paying job. or about getting rich, though, it could lead to these. It is about using your natural passions and aptitudes in any position you find yourself, be it your at your job space, your community, your home or anywhere else. What you are meant to do is already within you from childhood. Education, training and self awareness help to sharpen it (them). Regardless of your spiritual inclinations, a sense of purpose will not only lead to a greater well-being, but can help us be at our best and live more fully.

A few months ago, I was invited by a church community in Linz, a beautiful city in Upper Austria, to give a 2-day seminar/workshop on ‘Life Purpose and Commitment’. The target group was women but the entire congregation was invited. At the end of the first day, one of the organizers led me to a lady participant who was assigned to take me back to my Hotel. This lady took me to a Mercedes Benz car parked outside of the conference building. The car had the taxi label mounted on it. She opened the rear door for me and went over to the driver’s seat.

‘Are you driving this?’ I asked.

‘Yes ma” she replied.

I insisted on sitting in the front seat with her. As she drove off, I asked, ‘Are you allowed to drive this taxi?’ With very pleasant smiles, she replied, ‘Yes, ma, it is my Taxi’.

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Patricia, the First African Woman Taxi driver in Austria – Linz, Austria.

On further discussion, I learnt that she had always found pleasure in driving even as a child and dreamt of owing a car.

“Do you drive at night and are you not scared?” I asked.

“No, not anymore. At first I was, but I pray each time for God’s protection and I believe He sends His angels to guard and protect me.” She replied.

Still curious, I asked, “What about the Austrian police, – have you ever been stopped or had problems with the police?’

“No, ma. Most wave when they see me. They call me , ‘Die erste Africanische Taxifahrerin von Österreich’ (the FIRST African Woman Taxi Driver of Austria)!

It it surprising that this didn’t mean anything, or sound significant to her. She has driven people from airports and across borders in Europe, even at night when necessary. Her name is Patricia Ekhator. Patricia is married and lives in Austria. She has 3 little sons. She juggles motherhood and her job with so much graciousness and gratefulness to God. Her husband is very supportive.

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Patricia and her taxi

With my mobile phone, I took photos of her while she drove. The next day at the workshop, to her bewilderment, I beamed her image on the screen, as the First African Woman Taxi Driver in Austria! The participants clapped and cheered. For the first time, they saw her differently. For the first time, Patricia became aware that she was already fulfilling one of her life purposes. She was rendering service not only by driving people around, but also promoting the image of the African women immigrants in Austria! She also uses this opportunity to express and share her faith. The next day, Patricia picked me up from my hotel and after the seminar, drove me to the train station.

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Me, ready to be driven by the First African Woman Taxi Driver of Austria!

My reason for sharing this is that many a time, we are already in our purpose but do not know it. What do you do that gives you deep happiness and fulfillment? Reflect on moments in your life when you did something that made you feel proud of yourself, and really happy. Don’t take anything as insignificant.You have to let go of cultural and societal expectations of you. You could discover that these moments, which I call ‘Peak Moments’, not only made you happy, but also made other people happy – periods that involved giving of yourself! These moments, or work are clues to your purpose(s) in life!

Read more on this from my post on Self Awareness published on my blog on  November 22, 2014. Continue reading

Service to Others

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It is the New Year 2015. I wonder what to post on my blog. Perhaps, I thought, something that indicates the changing pattern of life, the circle of life. All things come and go, the good and the bad, pleasure and pain, success and disappointments, achievements and mistakes. Everything that has a beginning has an ending! 2014 had a beginning, now it’s ended. Each year, we have a new chance either to continue, or to begin again. What we do today is what matters most because there is an end.

At times like this, ask yourself, “What is really important?” I believe that what is important in life could be synonymous with the purpose of life, and in this case, your purpose in life. One of my inspirational writers, Dr Wayne Dyer, in answer to the lingering question of finding one’s purpose wrote,

“..you come into the world with absolutely nothing. You will leave this physical world with exactly the same. All of your acquisitions and achievements can’t go with you. Therefore the only thing you can do with your life is giving it away. You’ll find yourself feeling purposeful if you can find a way to always be in the service of others.”

‘Service of others!’ The purpose of life is therefore about serving others! How can you serve others? What ever you are good at and enjoy doing should be in service for others. This should not be confused with just earning a living. For instance: you teach because you love to teach, but you teach to educate others. You build because you love to build, but you build to make others happy. You cook because you love to cook, but you cook to feed others. You write because you love to images-3express yourself in words, and these words inspire others. Even a smile is something if you give it away. Each of us has a personal calling or purpose that is unique. Develop what you love doing and then find a way to offer it to others in form of service.

This brings to mind, the interview of Steve Jobs’ wife, Laurene Jobs, after the death of her husband. When asked what she thought was Steve Jobs’ legacy, she replied, “… His ultimate aim was to create tools that allow people to work at the highest level”. We all continue to enjoy these tools today, but Steve Jobs has come to the end of his life on earth!

How can you serve others in 2015?

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